Thursday, July 14, 2011

Respect My Authority!

Posted by Hannah at 1:14 AM


I had a neighbor years ago that just LOVED to giggle at Cartman from South Park.  I have watched the show a couple of times, and yes it is for mature audiences.   The show lampoons reality for some, and yes it is satire.


Cartman is loud, obnoxious, racist and obese—is often portrayed as an antagonist whose has a anti-Semitic attitude.  He is a child of a single mother, and she oozes the meek and mild attitude of ‘how women are to be’ attitude.  On the other hand, she also represents an extreme model of free love if you catch my drift!  Cartman tends to be in denial about the one side of his mother, and yet loves to control and manipulate the other side.

People tend to giggle at Cartman because he is one to demand you respect his authority, and yet you see the loud, obnoxious and immature boy that doesn’t have much to respect.


I found this description of him: Cartman is frequently portrayed as an antagonist or villain whose actions set in motion the events serving as the main plot of an episode. Other children and classmates are alienated by Cartman's insensitive, sexist, racist, homophobic, anti-sematic, lazy, misogynistic, self-righteous, and wildly insecure behavior, but are occasionally influenced by his obtrusive, manipulative, and propagandist antics.

Okay.  I have to admit there are some in the church to me that represent Cartman to a tea!    Jack Schaap we wrote about within the last couple of months, and YES his attitude is the extreme case of what I’m talking about.  You remember how he started his ‘holy’ tirade?

ABC news called me this week and said "We heard that you believe that men should be in charge of their wives"
I said, "No sir, I didn't say that. I said God said that. He said husbands are the head of the wife."
I said, "You got a problem with what I said when I'm quoting the Bible, then maybe you should take it up with God."
He said, "Do you think that's appropriate?"
I said, "Son, anything God says is appropriate. I think you better get that straight right now."
I never apologize for standing where God stands. I never worry standing where God stands. Somebody says, "You know what they are going to say about you?"
Pffft, who cares?
Stand in line, pick a number, slob!
Get you little squirt gun out and squirt away.
Bigger things to worry about. Heaven, Hell, life, death.

Does anyone doubt that such a man would also love to scream out, “RESPECT MY AUTHORITY!”


David J. Stewart wrote an article that I picked apart many years ago.  He was asked about divorcing an abusive spouse.

Interestingly, and sadly, all we see on the internet and in society today is talk about domestic violence; but NEVER do we hear anything about statistics on wives who refuse to obey their husbands. It is evil. It is just as sinful for a wife to frustrate her husband through insubordination and disobedience as it is for a man to commit domestic violence. I am not lessening the sin of domestic violence, I am emphasizing the sin of wives who rebel against their husbands by not being obedient. I realize this is ancient mentality to feminists today; but it is 100% Biblical doctrine. A wife is expected by God to obey her husband. Feminists are eagerly willing to crucify abusive husbands; BUT they won't even address the issue of wives who disobey, mistreat, and frustrate their husbands. It takes two to tango.

Does anyone doubt that such a man would also love to scream out, “RESPECT MY AUTHORITY!”respect-my-authority


Reb Bradley wrote an article about Emotional Abuse and Marriage.

Let us remember that the apostles who gave us God's commands were themselves the victims of severe emotional and physical abuse. They, like Pastor Richard Wurmbrand, endured torture beyond anything we have ever seen. In his books, Pastor Wurmbrand describes his 14 years in a Romanian prison at the hands of communist torturers. His love and compassion for his torturers testifies of the assurance we have as Christians that we too can selflessly love our wives and husbands.

Certainly if those tortured on a daily basis can see the good that comes from suffering, then we as minimally suffering, soft Americans can handle the opportunities for growth that come our way through the difficulties of marriage. If we are able to cease our "giving to get" mentality and begin simply "giving" we would finally be able enjoy the fulfillment that comes from loving selflessly in the image of Christ.

Mr. Bradley feels that you came into marriage to ‘get’ instead of serve. You must be like Pastor Warmbrand, and have love and compassion for your abuser as you stay and be tortured.  If you can’t your to soft!


Does anyone doubt that such a man would also love to scream out, “RESPECT MY AUTHORITY!”

Then we have Bruce Ware:

and their husbands on their part, because they are sinners, now respond to that threat to their authority either by being abusive, which is, of course, one of the ways men can respond when their authority is challenged, or more commonly by becoming passive, acquiescing and simply not asserting the leadership they ought to as men in their homes and churches.

John Piper, and his famous endure abuse for a season!

She’s going to say, however, something like, “Honey, I want so much to follow you as my leader.  I think God calls me to do that, and I would love to do that.  It would be sweet to me if I could enjoy your leadership.”  And so – then she would say – “But if you would ask me to do this, require this of me, then I can’t – I can’t go there.”

Now that’s one kind of situation.  Just a word on the other kind.  If it’s not requiring her to sin, but simply hurting her, then I think she endures verbal abuse for a season, she endures perhaps being smacked one night, and then she seeks help from the church.

Paige Patterson

And what she didn’t know when we sat down in church that morning was that her husband had come in and was standing at the back, first time he ever came. And when I gave the invitation that morning, he was the first one down to the front. And his heart was broken, he said, “My wife’s praying for me, and I can’t believe what I did to her.” And he said, “Do you think God can forgive somebody like me?” And he’s a great husband today. And it all came about because she sought God on a regular basis. And remember, when nobody else can help, God can.

And in the meantime, you have to do what you can at home to be submissive in every way that you can and to elevate him. Obviously, if he’s doing that kind of thing he’s got some very deep spiritual problems in his life and you have to pray that God brings into the intersection of his life those people and those events that need to come into his life to arrest him and bring him to his knees.


Be the Change is starting a series, ‘The Marks of Manhood?” that I just couldn’t help myself from commenting on!  I think my comment is in moderation at this point.  It should be a good series. 

This is, of course, all a precursor to what this really has to say about women: we are babes, lost in the spiritual world, who need guiding from a big, strong man. By putting both women and children in the spiritual hierarchy under a man – because, regardless of the “nuance” you may try to put in there, it is what this position ultimately does – only serves to infantilize the woman. It makes the woman dependent upon the leadership of the man, which is contrary to many examples we see the in the Bible: Deborah as judge over all of Israel, Esther as basically a rebel against the regime of her husband, Phoebe as a leader in the church, and women as the first witnesses to the risen Christ. It sets up a false hierarchy within relationships and within the church that fails to acknowledge the contribution of women, especially that of single women.

And that is the real tragedy here: If we continually tell women that they are weak, that they need guidance, why, then, would we expect them to be anything else, why would even they feel like contributing? Infantilizing a grown, adult human being only serves to alienate them from the growing body and community of Christ. And that is the real disaster.

Oh. Yeah. Jesus wasn’t married. Just saying.

You know what is strange?  When you don’t agree with comments similar to Eric Cartman type of preaching of, ‘You respect my AUTHORITY!”  You normally are called names, “Feminist, Jezebel” etc.  How you don’t respect God either.  You know what also reminds me of?  Another Cartman antic.


cartman south park

(giggles!) yes I had to throw it in there!

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Anonymous said...

I wonder what they would say if a married man said its all a bunch of bs would they call him jezebel :P

Hannah on 7:50 PM said...


They have their strange comments about men as well it seems. You don't view things their way, and they hint at men being wimps and silly stuff like that.

Its sad at how so out of touch they truly can be a times.

Karen Robinson on 9:01 PM said...

It is interesting that most leaders in the church respond to a woman being abused by encouraging her essentially to "take one for the team" and continue to endure it.

They reduce the marital covenant relationship to a comparison of the obligation we might have to a stranger! The Bible says "Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the Church." The Bible doesn't say "husbands love your coworkers, strangers, etc. as Christ loves the Church." His obligation is to his wife. Women are typically encouraged to continue to hang in there, not expect anything, etc. It is ridiculous to ask a spouse to be so emotionally detached as to not expect anything! As the author said "Emotional detachment is not God's will in marriage."
I bet if a person went to a leader in the church and complained that their best friend, boss or sibling was emotionally or physically abusive, the counsel would be to stay away and literally detach from such a person or relationship. What often happens is that the marital relationship seems to have lower standards and expectations that one might expect from a superficial relationship.
It is not God's will for us to be verbally or physically abused in marriage! Plain and simple. While I agree that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to make you happy, on the flip side, it shouldn't be the place where you are abused and encouraged to endure it for the sake of Christ.

I think Christ tells us that we are to separate from an infidel and a spouse who is chronically abusive is an infidel. We shouldn't have to be "pledged" in our own homes. It is not unreasonable to expect an atmosphere of emotional and physical safety in our homes.

Hannah on 10:17 PM said...

I agree with you Karen.

They do talk the talk so well when it comes to what they term 'soft theology', but I guess they never figured out their stand on this stuff? Softer than an overcooked noodle.

shadowspring on 1:35 PM said...

Loved this post!!!

Hannah on 3:54 PM said...

Thank you Shadow

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