Monday, March 31, 2008

HEALING THROUGH FIGHTING - Part One God is listening!

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:00 AM

I have run into situations in which I could see very hurt people reaching out to others only to be handed some simplistic advice, and I often wondered if I was only one that felt this way. I never understood WHY people would hand over some little tidbits of scripture, and felt it would be a way for these people to forget about their wounds and instantly be transformed.

If people would just get RIGHT with God everything would be fine!

Shaming others when they are in the depths of despair with telling them that they went into relationships just GET and not to GIVE!

Love is not a feeling its an action!

God never promised you that you would be happy!

People bend themselves into pretzels trying to make things work, and people tell them:

WORK on yourself! Don't worry about THEM!

They would quickly claim that they were CALLED to tell the truth about things, but one thing they always seemed to miss was the empathy and compassion part of it. I'm NOT saying people don't need to hear truth okay! Its the delivery that seems to fall short in my eyes. I don't always disagree with what they are saying, but they put it in a way when you receive it that makes you feel like there is something truly wrong with you if you don't GET IT! If you don't grab on to their message, and live it for all its worth!

I enjoyed Jacky Hughes description of this:

Healing doesn't come through nice syrupy prayers about God making it all better! It doesn't come through saying "God has not given us the spirit of fear but of love, power, and a sound mind,"as if repeating something like a parrot has the magical quality of transforming someone's life. It comes by teaching people that they are in a battle, and that the things that have happened to them are battle wounds. The only way people get to heal up in Jesus is when they start to understand the battle strategy.

As a new Christian, having Bible verses like the one above quoted at me could drive me to the depths of despair. I could do that parrot repeat, but I was totally unable to find relief from my feelings. It took a long time to understand that we don't heal by quoting scripture, we heal by finding the weapons that the scriptures tell us are there to fight with.

You can't be a Christian and not be at war, but this is a different kind of war. You enter the battle wounded, and every skirmish with the enemy means that you get more healed. You don't get taken off the battle field wounded, you end up learning to fight while you are down on the ground.

We do get that promised inner peace. It comes by learning to wield a sword.

I think alot of people forget that part. Don't you?

The reaction people get to their hurts at times encouraged even myself to shut down, and not reach out because I knew what they answers would be. I also knew in my gut there was more to it than what they were handing over. I felt like they were telling me to do my job as a faith follower, and asked me to give to God because quite frankly they didn't want to deal with it.

If people would have explained about the battle like Jacky did I guess I could have accepted things a bit more. As it was I felt like I was being blown off, and their 'parroting' as she mentioned of scriptures should be a good enough.

Lets us take a different take on this issue when it comes to martial abuse, domestic violence, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, etc.

I think Psalm 28 speaks to both the victims and the abusers alike. It speaks to what God is, and what he will do on behalf of those on both sides of the abuse equation. It tells us that in any life cirucmstnace we can have confidence in three unshakeable truths!

1. GOD is listening!

David is speaking in this passage, and I'm not quite sure what the circumstance was when he was writing this passage. It did sound like he was NOT in the best emotional state!

Psalms 28:1-2 GW By David. O LORD, I call to you. O my rock, do not turn a deaf ear to me. If you remain silent, I will be like those who go into the pit. (2) Hear my prayer for mercy when I call to you for help, when I lift my hands toward your most holy place.

Ever been there yourself?

David is screaming to God to please listen, because if he remains silent that he will fall into that pit as others have before him.

Can you identify with David? I think most of us can!

For those on the receiving end of abuse these feelings of desperation are normal. Don't allow others to tell you otherwise! You also need to know that he is listening to you, and the bible also tells us this as well!

1 John 5:13-15 GW I've written this to those who believe in the Son of God so that they will know that they have eternal life. (14) We are confident that God listens to us if we ask for anything that has his approval. (15) We know that he listens to our requests. So we know that we already have what we ask him for.

God hears your cries for help. At times we may not think so, but if we look back in our lifes you will see ways God has shown you that he does. God listens and responds to the hurting and desperate people!

Psalms 34:1-22 GW By David when he pretended to be insane in the presence of Abimelech; Abimelech threw him out, so David left. I will thank the LORD at all times. My mouth will always praise him. (2) My soul will boast about the LORD. Those who are oppressed will hear it and rejoice. (3) Praise the LORD'S greatness with me. Let us highly honor his name together. (4) I went to the LORD for help. He answered me and rescued me from all my fears. (5) All who look to him will be radiant. Their faces will never be covered with shame. (6) Here is a poor man who called out. The LORD heard him and saved him from all his troubles. (7) The Messenger of the LORD camps around those who fear him, and he rescues them. (8) Taste and see that the LORD is good. Blessed is the person who takes refuge in him. (9) Fear the LORD, you holy people who belong to him. Those who fear him are never in need. (10) Young lions go hungry and may starve, but those who seek the LORD'S help have all the good things they need. (11) Come, children, listen to me. I will teach you the fear of the LORD. (12) Which of you wants a full life? Who would like to live long enough to enjoy good things? (13) Keep your tongue from saying evil things and your lips from speaking deceitful things. (14) Turn away from evil, and do good. Seek peace, and pursue it! (15) The LORD'S eyes are on righteous people. His ears hear their cry for help. (16) The LORD confronts those who do evil in order to wipe out all memory of them from the earth. (17) Righteous people cry out. The LORD hears and rescues them from all their troubles. (18) The LORD is near to those whose hearts are humble. He saves those whose spirits are crushed. (19) The righteous person has many troubles, but the LORD rescues him from all of them. (20) The LORD guards all of his bones. Not one of them is broken. (21) Evil will kill wicked people, and those who hate righteous people will be condemned. (22) The LORD protects the souls of his servants. All who take refuge in him will never be condemned.

For those who are the perpetrators of abuse you need to know this as well! GOD is listening, and he will not allow this wrong to continue and to by unpunished! In the above passage I do believe he is trying to tell perpetrators something in verses 15-22!

God says this pretty firmly in Psalms 50:

Psalms 50:16-22 GW But God says to wicked people, "How dare you quote my decrees and mouth my promises! (17) You hate discipline. You toss my words behind you. (18) When you see a thief, you want to make friends with him. You keep company with people who commit adultery. (19) You let your mouth say anything evil. Your tongue plans deceit. (20) You sit and talk against your own brother. You slander your own mother's son. (21) When you did these things, I remained silent. That made you think I was like you. I will argue my point with you and lay it all out for you to see. (22) Consider this, you people who forget God. Otherwise, I will tear you to pieces, and there will be no one left to rescue you.

And here again in Psalm 64:

Psalms 64:1-10 GW For the choir director; a psalm by David. Hear my voice, O God, when I complain. Protect my life from a terrifying enemy. (2) Hide me from the secret plots of criminals, from the mob of troublemakers. (3) They sharpen their tongues like swords. They aim bitter words like arrows (4) to shoot at innocent people from their hiding places. They shoot at them suddenly, without any fear. (5) They encourage one another in their evil plans. They talk about setting traps and say, "Who can see them?" (6) They search for the perfect crime and say, "We have perfected a foolproof scheme!" Human nature and the human heart are a mystery! (7) But God will shoot them with an arrow. Suddenly, they will be struck dead. (8) They will trip over their own tongues. Everyone who sees them will shake his head. (9) Everyone will be afraid and conclude, "This is an act of God!" They will learn from what he has done. (10) Righteous people will find joy in the LORD and take refuge in him. Everyone whose motives are decent will be able to brag.

God is listening and will act against wrongdoers!

Think back on your life, and either write down ways you have seen God demonstrate this to you! We would love it if you would also share here as well! Either way remember God is listening, and God does hear!

Next time we will speak about how God is Just!

Healing Through Fighting - Part Two God Is Just

Healing Through Fighting - Part Three God is Able

Healing Throught Fighting - Conclusion

Friday, March 28, 2008

Teen Violence - Domestic Violence or abuse in Dating

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 11:27 AM

Black Missing but not Forgotten has an excellent article on teen violence!

This is one of the videos she offered! Its a great peice if you have children around that age, and want to remind them what a safe relationship really is.

The article is worth the read, and I'm sure will help plenty of teens see the light!

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Gospel of John Day Three

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:00 AM

Gospel of John - Day One

Gospel of John - Day two

Part 13

Part 14

Part 15

Part 16

Part 17

Part 18

Part 19

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Gospel of John - Day Two

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:00 AM

Gospel of John - Day One

Gospel of John - Day Three

Part Seven

Part Eight

Part Nine

Part Ten

Part Eleven

Part Twelve

Monday, March 24, 2008

The Gospel of John

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:00 AM

I found a series online for the Gospel of John. I will post them in sequence!

Also here are some quick links to rest!

Gospel of John - Day Two

Gospel of John - Day Three

Part One

Part Two

Part Three

Part Four

Part Five

Part Six

I will post some Tommorrow!

Friday, March 21, 2008

The Newsboys - He Reigns

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 1:12 PM

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Detours: Domestic Violence

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 10:05 AM

Detours: Domestic Violence sermon was given Pastor Doug Kelly One of a series of sermons entitled Detours: Gettting Back on Track with God ©Christ Presbyterian Church, Carlsbad, Ca

Saturday, March 15, 2008

A New Look Thanks to Tips for New Bloggers!

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 7:39 PM

Tips for New Bloggers: Three Columns Rounders 4 Template

I have been wanting to spice things up for a while, and wanted to change this blog to three columns for sometime. Thanks to Tips to New Bloggers for their awesome directions that were VERY clear, and VERY easy to follow!

Now I just need to arrange a couple of things!

I highly recommend this blog if you are looking for some answers!

Friday, March 14, 2008

Cash for Books

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:28 AM

I don't know about you, but I have books laying around collecting DUST! Checkout one of link below to see if you can turn those books into cold hard cash!

If you are BOOK person please check out the link at the bottom for their updated 500 list.

I would appreciate anyone using the links below when doing their search. If I get referals the funds collected goes towards causes of Domestic Violence!

I do wish to note that I have actually GOT PAID from them! That to ME is important to know. There is alot of scams out there, and I was pleasantly surprised when payment arrived!

I wanted to note this because we can all use some extra cash, and you don't need any special skills with this one to get some money.

Cash For Books - We Buy Books & We Pay The Shipping!

Sell Textbooks Online - Quick Cash, Free Shipping, Free Quotes

Please read the condition of the book page!

Selling books can be done in 4 easy steps:

**Type in ISBN(s) from your books and press the Enter key after each one. Click 'price my books' to see our offer. If we are buying the book(s), they will be added to your Seller Cart.
**Go to Checkout and give us your contact information.
**Ship your book(s) to us. We pay the shipping, with our FREE pre-paid mailing label which you can print from your computer. Specific instructions are provided after submitting your order.
**Get Paid, FAST! For payment, we will mail you a check, or pay you via PayPal, within 3 business days after we receive and process your book(s).

They do NOT buy:

Advance reading copies, uncorrected proofs, and/or promotional or "screener" copies of books
Book club editions
Books that state "not for resale" (or "not for sale") anywhere on the cover or inside
Ex-library books
International edition textbooks (standard U.S. editions only)
Most Bibles
Most encyclopedia sets
Most magazines and comic books
Most outdated computer books and outdated textbooks
Most paperback fiction
Older Books and/or collectibles without ISBN numbers
One-time use subscription/registration based software/online course materials
Partial sets (i.e., only sending volume 1 of a 2 volume set)
Reader's Digest books

If you are the type that LOVES to shop for books make sure you glance at their top 500 list they put out! From what I have read they do update this often!

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Speech given by Mark Redmond about Domestic Violence

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 11:15 AM

Link to Speech This gentleman spoke about domestic abuse I felt was very moving.
Thanks for inviting me here this morning. As Gary said, I am the director of Spectrum Youth and Family Services, and when people think of Spectrum they think of our work right across the street, where we help homeless teenagers by providing them with shelter, food, education and job assistance. And when I tell people we also have staff in White River Junction, Bratteleboro, Bennington and Middlebury, and that they work in prisons and probation offices with men who have been convicted of battering, people are surprised. In fact I remember telling this to one person who replied, “And why is Spectrum involved in that?” And the answer is that the vast majority of those young people who come to us off the street seeking help grew up in families where there was domestic violence, where there was a man battering his wife and partner, and very likely battering his children as well. An estimated 50-70% of men who physically abuse their partner or wife and also doing the same to their children. So it is our belief that if we can get to these men, and help change their belief system, their way of thinking about women, we are in effect reducing the number of young people who will end up in the foster care system or homeless.
It was one of our domestic violence prevention workers, a female, who came to me after the terrible death of Michelle Gardner Quinn last year, and said, “You know what is disturbing about all the articles written on this? Everything is about how women need to make themselves safer. ‘If only Michelle Gardner Quinn had kept her phone charged. Women should always remember to charge their phone. A woman should not get separated from her friends. She should not walk back to UVM at night alone, and if she does, she should not talk to any man she does not already know.’ That kind of thing, which is fine, we do want to be safe, but what is missing is anyone saying or writing, ‘Why are so many men doing this? Why are so many men hurting and killing women in our state and in our country?’ That is the elephant in the room, and a man needs to write this and it should be you.”
The rest is worth the read!

Saturday, March 08, 2008

Taking a break from words

0 comments Posted by Hannah at 9:08 PM

I was told about this sermon, and it speaks of the power and damage that words can cause. Its based on James 3.

Christ Community Church is the location.

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