I have noticed in some circumstances in which people speak about abuse they tend to ‘generalize’ it, or even try to incorporate everything they see sinful into the definition.
You might ask WHY they would do this, and I have begun to see a pattern.
They do this so they don’t have to deal with what they seem to see as more ‘minor’ offenses to them.
They twist the definition to show that ‘everyone’ is guilty. That way it can be addressed in a more general manner, and dealt with as such as well.
HOW everyone can be sinful at one time or another, and downright hinting how everyone can be abusive.
The strange part of that is then they generally go into HOW the word abuse is over used. What do they think they just did themselves?
Pattern of Behavior
What they seem to not deal with is the part of the definition that speaks of ‘pattern’. There is a pattern of behavior.
They take an individual that may have done something ugly one day. I think we all can agree that being ugly isn’t acceptable either. The problem with their example is they aren’t using the pattern that is incorporated within the definition. They label the ‘ugly’ abuse instead of what it is, and enforce the idea that everyone can be ugly at times.
At this point they will attempt ‘blur’ the line of what a pattern is. If we take a person that has an addiction to drugs or alcohol that seems to be something they can comprehend when see their patterns of behavior.
When you attempt to show the same principal in other areas? They mysteriously appear as if they can’t grasp the connection.
I view this as a convenience more than ignorance. It reminds me of a game my mother would play when she didn’t want to admit she was wrong. I called it the ‘Southern Belle Act’. They claim they don’t understand, but you know they do. If you can see the pattern of behavior in an addict then you know what people are talking about. They play like they don't realize it is the same.
My mother is a very intelligent person, but when she didn’t wish to deal with something she will act as if she didn’t grasp something. I’m not slamming my Mother, because once the issue is pushed she would admit what she was doing. We all have our quirks don’t we?
Sadly, the parties that are trying to ‘redefine’ the concept of abuse aren’t so fore coming. They will take examples of people that misuse the word abuse to their advantage in their presentation of how the world seems ‘confused’ as to what it means.
Lets look at a good example of this:
However, sometimes, when people use the word abuse, they mean other things. Today, the word abuse is used to describe everything from violence, rape, molestation, and verbal cruelty to any form of corporal punishment, hurting someone’s feelings, offending the religious views of another, or even “grounding” a child from something he wants to do. In society’s effort to extend the definition of abuse, the word has nearly lost its meaning.
It hasn’t lost it’s meaning at all.
You notice that the author didn’t bring in the ‘pattern’ part of the definition? It shows their start of the ‘Southern Belle Act’. Unfortunately, the author will attempt show most of society are guilty parties playing the Southern Belle Act.
The first portion of her statement are seen as legitimate forms of abuse, and the last segment is where she will attempt to show US our ‘confusion’.
According the author society in general doesn’t understand:
Definitions of ‘corporal punishment’ versus ‘child abuse’
Definitions of ‘hurting someone’s feelings’ versus ‘emotional abuse’
Definitions of ‘offending another’s religious views’ versus ‘legalism’
The last portion when she speaks of ‘grounding’? It was some strange news story taken from Canada about how a girl was upset at her father for grounding her from a school trip, and took him to court over it. The controversy was over HOW the child could the win this case, and how the father’s authority within the child’s life was taken from him. The child wasn’t mistreated, and from what you read about the case? She was being disciplined over a legitimate act that needed discipline.
How some strange court hearing that is being appealed to me doesn’t even fit into ‘example’ of society’s ignorance of abuse. From what I have read of the case 'abuse' wasn’t even mentioned. The author ‘used’ this example of how we as society have twisted the word abuse none the less. How? It must be something personal, because she never did connect the dots on that one.
This to me is a red flag when someone is attempting to educate you about abuse in this fashion. They approach you as ignorant, and have to dumb down segments to make their points.
How everyone can be ugly at times, and we are all sinners – thus hinting we are all abusers. The ‘key’ concept of abuse is pattern of behavior.
When they point out silly things like we don’t know the differences between polar opposites such as ‘hurting feelings’ and ‘emotional abuse’?
You can be rest assured the rest of the discussion is going to be focused on how they need to speak DOWN to you to make sure you understand.
YES that is part of the “Southern Belle Act” as well. They know they are being rude and condescending. Unlike my mother, most of those types aren’t willing to admit it. They claim they are trying to educate, but that is just the start of their deceitful presentation.
The ignorance is that they don’t seem to think people can see it for what it is.
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