On the one side all it bubbled down to the phrase, "Someone has to be in charge!” That would be Jesus, but that is not what was meant within their conversation of course.
Unfortunately, some men make their position as they see it anyway - as some sort of power grab. You see it and feel it within their responses when they must remind others WHOM is in charge - whom the HEAD is, etc.
To me I see projection in their response. They normally state how the current culture is telling women if they aren’t in a position OVER men they are seen as a doormat. I see quite the opposite. You can see how they must feel like a doormat if they are not seen as OVER someone.
Mutuality isn’t ‘power over’ someone. When there is mutuality there is no doormat.
The bible states we need to work towards being “one in Christ”, but it seems the headship crowd are more worried about reminding everyone who the ‘head’ is. Their focus is off, and should be more on Christ.
1 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
Humility today seems to be a dirty word, and certain men would even say it emasculates them in some fashion. Jesus asked us to find comfort from his love, and to make his joy complete we would all be like minded, and one minded. Humility allows us to not value ourselves, or our interests more than we should.
The way 'headship' crowd go around reminding everyone of men’s place? This shows to me the selfish ambition or vain conceit. Reminding everyone WHOM is in charge is placing their own interests above others. How? They must be recognized properly. To me its quite the opposite of what Jesus asked them to do.
When others call them on this 'attitude' that is seen as arrogance? They seem to try to justify themselves. I know most would think it was the 'ladies' that pointing this out, but more and more often I see men doing the same thing.
The response these honorable men receive is along the lines of: Your view avoids scripture because of a reflex reaction based out of your disdain for a "male dominated society" rather than an appreciation for the will of God.
Male domination is in their own interest, and they tend to try to downplay that. I mean how often do you see humble servants reminding everyone else they get the last word? The contradiction comes when they have to remind others WHOM the top dog is!
Emasculation is not what Jesus is after, but the fear of that emasculation - in headship crowds eyes - is what they would be left with. God's will asks for humility, and reminding everyone of their headship with the attitude in question? Who is showing the true disdain?
I think the real problem is they can’t admit their ‘headship’ banter doesn’t sound humble. The deception is they feel it will emasculate them, and yet Jesus wasn’t anywhere near that was he? They believe a lie.
Authority Is A Dirty Word?
To often the headship crowd reminds others that they feel ‘authority’ is a dirty word. If you watch closely they are also the ones most of the time that are telling others to lift them up. They will be the ‘interpreters and enforcers’ of the law. They assume the right to show you what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, and also feel the right to enforce it.
When I read about the approachable nature of Jesus in the bible he certainly doesn’t come off like others that wish to remind ‘people’ of their place. Jesus had authority, and the bible speaks about how others could ‘feel’ that authority when he spoke. People gravitated towards him due to his compassion, humble nature, and because he spoke with love and grace.
It looks to me like there may more than one definition of authority. One seems to wanting to use their ‘authority’ to their advantage, and to remind others whom it is in charge. Why they don’t realize when you come off like that you are seen as threat? You are not seen as safe?
They speak with a ‘big head’, and you can feel the threat of being squished! That is NOT what the bible had in mind!
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