Monday, September 13, 2010

Are Females Equal in Dignity, or the 'source' of derogatory terms?

Posted by Hannah at 7:00 AM

Definition of DEROGATORY

1: detracting from the character or standing of something —often used with to, towards, or of
2: expressive of a low opinion : disparaging <derogatory remarks>
 Male and female were created by God as equal in dignity, value, essence and human nature, but also distinct in role whereby the male was given the responsibility of loving authority over the female, and the female was to offer willing, glad-hearted and submissive assistance to the man. - CBMW

feminization of the Church
feminization of Leadership
feminization of males
feminized male temperament
feminization of the social order
feminized male temperament
feminization of manhood
feminization of our homes and institutions
feminization of church leadership
feminization of deity

 For some reason today it seems acceptable to use the female, feminization, feminist, etc as a derogatory term, and yet its pretty acceptable to also state that women are: equal in dignity, value, essence and human nature...

Why does this sense to people?  Do we show the equality in dignity, value and essence of women when we use feminine words to describe what is wrong with the world?  Its used in a derogatory way, and yet we are accept that we are seen with dignity, value and essence. This should not be.

We heard about 'gender confusion', but the way they describe it at times?  It sounds like Androgyny. To the secular world gender confusion would mean more about sexual orientation.  Androgyny in very simplistic terms is: a person who does not fit cleanly into the typical masculine and feminine gender roles of their society.

The truth is there are times that people don't cleanly fit into what society says is strict gender roles.  Lets take a man that can be sensitive at times.  According to today's theories that is because they got 'chick a fied' (Driscoll).  From what I see they take the term sensitive, and overuse the characteristics of that word into what seems a 'drama fied' presentation of their own justification instead.

Here is a example of what I'm talking about:

The sensitive man represents a cultural attempt, then, to correct John Wayne masculinity. Where his father or grandfather never wept, never talked much, never said "I love you", the sensitive male weeps readily, chatters away, and reassures anyone within earshot of his love. In seeking an emotionally alive masculinity the sensitive man seems to have sped past "properly balanced emotional life" and landed in the once-foreign land of "traditionally feminine ways of speaking and feeling".  CBMW
 Then to make sure they don't want to tell you being 'sensitive' isn't all together WRONG:

Men of the Bible are by no means silent or unemotional. The father of the prodigal son, for example, weeps openly and deservedly when his son returns home (see Luke 15:11-32). Christ Himself wept when He heard of Lazarus's death (John 11:35). Christ was compassionate, tender, gentle, and merciful throughout the course of His ministry. So we ought to be a balance of strength and gentleness, not either/or.  CBMW
What we seem to miss is that not all women are characterized as: weeps readily, chatters away, and reassures anyone within earshot of her love.

I know I don't see myself like that, so am I 'dude a fied'? Did I buy into the masculinist movement?  Is that a masculinization of females?  Do I have a masculinized female temperament?  OH I KNOW I'LL BE - MACHO FIED!  That sounds so much better doesn't it?

Although that might sound derogatory...

Most parents would tell their children NOT to tell their male friend  that he throws like a girl.  How it will hurt their feelings, and because its cruel.  We all know how it is used, and what it means to a boy to be told this.  We see it used all the time, and yet as a woman I'm not to feel 'less than' because females traits are being used as a cut down.

It would make about as much sense if they choose to pick on Red hair.  Red Hair is awesome, Red hair is honorable....Add in all their superficial praises here.  Then use the red hair as a derogatory cut down to another person, because its 'culturally cool'.  THEN turn around and tell the person they love next to them with red hair, and repeat the mandra:  Red hair is honorable, Red hair is awesome....

Those rules about calling a male a female seem to have changed ONCE you become an adult.  I wonder how they explain that to their children? I mean now it is totally acceptable to tell them they are acting like a female.  What seems confusing is God honors females, but its okay to use culturally 'female' traits to attack men.  Yet, that isn't because they don't honor females.  Why does that make sense?

Their Conclusion:  We need to realize women are equal in worth, dignity, etc but SON we do need to use the 'feminine' characteristics to show the world WHAT is wrong with these men!  THEY act like all a bunch of WOMEN!

For some reason its okay to use those derogatory terms to hurt the feelings of men, and at the same time show women by the use of such derogatory female terms also means no disrespect to women. 

In the end?  There really should be no confusion!

Seriously?  I personally feel its insulting.



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4 comments:

Mara Reid on 11:16 AM said...

Another good one Hannah.

These men go on and on using the feminine as derogatory then wonder why we are offended.

Duh.

Get a clue guys.
When Jesus said, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you," there was no clause in it saying there were acceptions concerning the feminine.
If you don't want women using the masculine in a derogatory sense, then quit using the feminine that way.
As you do unto the least of these, you do unto Jesus Christ Himself. Do you really want to be guilty of that?

Get a clue.

Hannah on 11:31 AM said...

Yes, I have often wondered what God would think about men using women characteristics as they define in such a manner. They claim HONOR to the gender, and yet use it to mock and ridicule. Do they seriously think God would approve of using his creation is such a manner?

It shows a major flaw in their 'leadership' skills to me.

I agree - Get a clue!

Gayle D'Ambrosio Crabtree on 10:28 PM said...

Great points. I too think that they should get a clue. I also think that as we value ourselves more we'll teach our sons to do the same. This may go a long way toward equality.

Hannah on 8:46 AM said...

How true!

I remember my son once asked me about this. He asked me why they still think so 'old' fashion.

That was an interesting discussion about how some wish to return to the days gone by, because at times they feel the 'values' that they seem to have had disappeared. How they want to bring them back.

He said to me, "They do realize it wasn't ALL good right Mom?" YES I approached it as nostalgia, and that smart kid saw it wasn't all good.

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