I recently heard about Dr. Marc Monte tweets, and I wanted to point out this example of projection.
His last statement was, “Seems unreasonable to make comments about me when we’ve never met. You come across as an angry young man.”
Now, lets look at his comments on twitter that for some reason to him DON’T come across as ‘angry’. OH! Lets not forget the important side note – what spurred the ‘angry’ man (cough!) to respond to him at all!
Went to BJU from ‘85-‘89. Never heard one word about abuse. Only psychos feel ‘abused’. The rest of us had fun in a protected place.
Too many ‘victims’ use the Internet as a platform for whining. If laws were broken, involved the police – not the internet.
Here is one definition of projection: Projection is a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people. For example, if you have a strong dislike for someone, you might instead believe that he or she does not like you. Projection works by allowing the expression of the desire or impulse, but in a way that the ego cannot recognize, therefore reducing anxiety.
Dr. Marc Monte uses projection by telling someone they come across as ‘angry’, but doesn’t see how he is coming across as ‘angry’ by his own statements.
Also, he has never met anyone that has been abused – by his own statements – and yet feels perfectly calm and cool about calling them psychos and whiners.
The truth of the matter is he didn’t like being called out on his unchristian like statements. In return stated the person that mentions this as ‘angry’ instead. No doubt this did reduce his anxiety about stating things the way he did. He can now blow the man off, and not deal with his own sinful comments (coping mechanism).
Then Dr. Monte – I guess – somewhat attempted to change his tone and demeanor (I don’t think I’ve had the pleasure of meeting you), and states he is curious about the specifics the gentleman’s comment.
Now, you have to wonder if Dr. Marc Monte lives under a rock…and thus wonder why he made the comments he did. BUT that would make him clearly look foolish, since his friend Chuck Phelps had just been through all this.
Its just deflection because he doesn’t like being called out on the cruel comments that he made.
Notice also how the responder states he doesn’t understand the blindly insensitive comments he made towards suffering victims. Dr. Marc Monte decides at that point to completely ignore the conversation.
What does that show? Common sense would tell us that he isn’t all that interested in ‘specifics’ is he?
Then we see statements do show some serious arrogance.
Since he never saw – or heard of – any abuse that automatically means NO abuse happened.
BJU (Bob Jones University) brought in an organization ( Godly Response to Abuse in a Christian Environment – GRACE) to investigate these claims, and I would assume he also sees this as waste of time and energy. No, Dr. Marc Monte didn’t feel the need to call them names, or assumptions about this action.
Could be because he realizes that all hell would break loose all over him if he did state that BJU succumbed to the pressures of the world, and brought GRACE in at all. Yes, I threw in a bit of sarcasm in that last comment. It’s something they would no doubt parrot about others if it were NOT happening to them.
Right after these cruel tweets that sadly Dr. Marc Monte can’t comprehend as insensitive at best he received another response: You never caught a whiff because it was common to get rid of those who shine light on what happened. That's psycho.
People that refuse to own their statements and opinions don’t tend to respond, and as you can see he pretty much mastered that skill. BJU like the Catholic churches that are in the news again now have this in common. The Catholics got rid of the priest, and IFB got rid of the victims. They both got rid of the problem so they didn’t have to deal with it. They just chose different ways to basically do the same thing.
The difference is that the Catholic CHURCH will acknowledge what happened, and are mourning the aftermath. Worshiper’s of the Catholic church mourn for the victims, and they are upset at a system of cover up. Yes they are angry, and justifiably so. Empathy for the victims is the Christian thing to do, because that is what Jesus would ask of us. The Catholic church will be dealing with this for years, and still have a ways to go. Dr. Marc Monte doesn’t seem to grasp this needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.
Now, BJU News asked him to look at a page that calls out Dr. Monte’s behavior, and ask him if he knew what BJU was even being investigated about.
Dr. Monte decided that playing dumb, and instead stated the article had no specifics about BJU in it. In reality, Dr. Marc Monte didn’t like the fact it was talking about HIM and his response to abuse victims. That also is deflection. The part about asking him if he knew the specifics of the investigation at BJU? He pretended he didn’t even read that part at all. The silence is deafening.
The intelligent thing to do is be gracious, and admit his error. Instead, because it wasn’t HIS experience it didn’t happen at all. Then he felt he must go a step further, and state that people that are abused are ‘psychos’.
Dr. Marc Monte that received a honorary Doctorate, ”in 2005 for work related to exposing the dangers of radical Islam in America.” Yet the poor man can’t even grasp WHY people refer to comments like his as The Baptist Taliban. Could it be he learned how to ignore these issues by watching them (radical Islam) do the same thing?
NOW that is something to truly ponder isn’t it?
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