tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post6085873893024238770..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: 5 reasons domestic violence isn't addressed in churchHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-10585367283895116412009-11-15T06:02:19.252-06:002009-11-15T06:02:19.252-06:00You also have an excellent points.
The bible sp...You also have an excellent points. <br /><br />The bible speaks of attitude, and spirit not just rules we live by. It seems like they feel if you live by the rules, and don't worry about your attitude and spirit towards them you are fine.<br /><br />Your example of rape is one huge point. They take the authority over the body to a level that was never intended. His 'needs' are above the spirit of how life is to be lived as a Christian. There is no damage done, because it is his right as a husband. <br /><br />Its like they completely miss the spirit of how God intends you to live your life, and how to best reflect the spirit of God. There is nothing good, kind, loving, etc about the act of rape - and yet they find ways to justify it.<br /><br />It like they tell you to leave common sense at the door, because its not welcome here.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-62315501890818203332009-11-15T05:39:13.504-06:002009-11-15T05:39:13.504-06:00I think sometimes complementarian theology actuall...I think sometimes complementarian theology actually makes them unable to see abuse for what it is, especially if it's less physical. How can it be abuse if he's just insisting she take her "rightful" place back under him in the marriage? Why does a godly woman want/need her own ideas/ tastes/ opinions on anything when she was put on earth just to fulfil his needs? I have met people who can't conceive how anything less than life-threatening violence could even be considered abusive -- probably the same people who don't believe that such a thing as rape in marriage could possibly exist ..Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982043538182690871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-50715539729683375002009-11-15T04:39:04.080-06:002009-11-15T04:39:04.080-06:00Excellent! Yes indeed tend to do just that, and y...Excellent! Yes indeed tend to do just that, and yet as an after thought you are told 'we didn't mean it like that - you misunderstood us'. In reality, they misunderstand the dynamics of the home.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-76716902186481965172009-11-14T23:54:12.876-06:002009-11-14T23:54:12.876-06:00I can think of one more reason--scripture or spiri...I can think of one more reason--scripture or spiritual abuse. Although this one can be combined in both emotional and verbal abuse, it also has its own special devastating effect. Spiritual abuse--especially "wife submit"--is especially hard for wives to deal with because there is a small amount of truth to it; the Bible does tell wives to submit to their own husbands. However, nowhere does the Bible tell husbands to force their wives to submit, or to school their wives, or to make demands of their wives. <br /><br />Churches have a very difficult time addressing domestic violence because to do so feels to them as if they are telling wives to NOT SUBMIT. Churches that teach that the husband's role is to be an authority over his wife, have an especially difficult time addressing DV. After all, the husband who beats his wife, is simply enforcing his "god-given authority," so how can they fault him for that? They conclude the wife is at fault for not submitting. If she had submitted, her husband would not have had to enforce his authority. <br /><br />Sadly, they fail to recognize that a substantial amount of wife abuse is done because of the husband's frustration or power-hunger, not because his wife is unsubmissive.Waneta Dawnhttp://submissiontyranny.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com