tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post4604625349397697830..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: Hear no evil, See no evil, Speak no evilHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-78300486842329551962009-09-01T10:35:47.121-05:002009-09-01T10:35:47.121-05:00Amy: That is a hard spot to be placed in. I thin...Amy: That is a hard spot to be placed in. I think I would try to be her soft spot for right now. She doesn't have the option to leave her situation, and she will need it.<br /><br />I think I would find other sources to confront her mother at this point - due to the mother's nature. Don't give mom any excuse for her NOT to accept you, and thus taking away that soft place to land. Does that make sense?<br /><br />Are their resources at her school? Have you asked about resources locally for her from your DV shelter, or another organizations in your area that deals with teens? I think I would start there, and find her resources that will confront mom for you. That's not to say you can't give those organizations a heads up, and not keep up with it. Network for her I guess is what I'm saying. Try to distance yourself enough from that help that mom doesn't get threatened by you, and attempt to take away this girl's soft spot to land - you and your son.<br /><br />She needs a safe place - and that would be you at point. Allow her to keep that, and find other sources to push for the rest.<br /><br />Does that make sense?Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-20543966143193884042009-08-30T10:48:44.669-05:002009-08-30T10:48:44.669-05:00I can't tell you how timely this post is for m...I can't tell you how timely this post is for me. I'm in a situation where my son's 16-year-old girlfriend is being psychologically abused by her single mom. I am leaving a marriage because of being a victim of verbal, mental and emotional abuse and have felt anger for people siding with my h because he is a good guy or just not wanting to interfere. I always said that if my boys and I had outward wounds and scars no one would be hesitating to step in and say this is wrong.<br />Now here I am as one who has to figure out how to help this young woman w/o causing her more harm. <br />Hannah, if you have any resources to help me know how to approach this situation and talk with the mom. I'm sure she is a narcissist and I know from my own life that no matter how you approach them, they do not like being found out and I don't want to make this worse for the young woman who is still living at home.<br />Thank you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15107355327165282364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-63896278407072345682009-08-29T21:45:09.223-05:002009-08-29T21:45:09.223-05:00Thank you pmPilgrim! I look forward to reading yo...Thank you pmPilgrim! I look forward to reading your blogs as well!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-60839794912077393722009-08-29T20:24:52.838-05:002009-08-29T20:24:52.838-05:00Thank you for this great post. I will be quoting i...Thank you for this great post. I will be quoting it and commenting in my blog on Wednesday next week. Keep up the excellent work.pmPilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00426657674375376465noreply@blogger.com