tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post230789282119781062..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: Functional FixednessHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-72931569839279634262010-01-07T18:36:28.928-06:002010-01-07T18:36:28.928-06:00Charis I have to wonder if he maybe talking about ...Charis I have to wonder if he maybe talking about men that are bit more healthy within that others. I certainly wouldn't recommend it as a cure all that's for sure!<br /><br />I do agree with the value and respect towards ourselves. Its strange how I see at times people trying, and then be shot down and being told that maybe it was something they did to almost 'promote' it from happening. Sigh. I have to wonder at times if the church wishes to have a bunch of codependents on their hands.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-65848699348942903972010-01-07T17:55:42.789-06:002010-01-07T17:55:42.789-06:00Thanks for linking to my blog Hannah :)
"S...Thanks for linking to my blog Hannah :) <br /><br />"Sacred Influence" described my own journey; Gary Thomas is telling the truth about how we need to put God first, value and respect ourselves, and learn to build that within our marriages too. I wish I would have had the book 15 years ago. <br /><br />I listened to all three youtube segments. He lost me when he got off on how they are so dependent on us to build them up, and they will "live up to" our compliments. That part sounded like Eggerich and it didn't work in 22 years of being a poster girl for it in my marriage: <a href="http://hupotasso.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/love-respect-book-review-by-joel-davisson/" rel="nofollow">Love and Respect: Book Review</a>Charishttp://hupotasso.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-74564525863962042572010-01-06T16:17:54.961-06:002010-01-06T16:17:54.961-06:00Thank you John - I appreciate your comment!Thank you John - I appreciate your comment!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-4811977198311068772010-01-06T16:14:57.106-06:002010-01-06T16:14:57.106-06:00Jane I like your style! Truly!
It is strange how...Jane I like your style! Truly!<br /><br />It is strange how certain men go to sites, and ramble on about the respect of their authority, etc., but they go out of their way to NOT respect anyone in kind.<br /><br />To be fair? I have seen some nasty women that do the very same thing on faith boards as well.<br /><br />Where is the grace that we are to show others? It certainly isn't present, and they only have themselves to blame for that.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-38758778771027612892010-01-06T13:41:41.786-06:002010-01-06T13:41:41.786-06:00"I don't think that applies so much - the..."I don't think that applies so much - their motivation is to gain that control they seem to losing. Its hard for them to respect anyone, because frankly they don't respect themselves."<br /><br />Exactly and why when these morons [and they are morons] come on to women's spaces and work the 'kindness' of Christian women to manipulate, they really are mocking them and attempting mutiny--another means of abusive control. Its another psychology I have noticed, on numerous Christian women forums that are confronting or attempting to confront 'male superiority' complex or ultra-patriarchal super masculine power-abuse.<br /><br />They are not only abusers but Masters at manipulation...and even 'attempting to discuss' with them, in hopes of rehabilitating them, is a Waste of time, its the same entrapment. And don't think those men don't know it, they do,<br /><br />but I have noticed, that many Christian women do NOT realize or have a consciousness of how those dynamics work...where as, many in the secular feminist world do know and why they are NOT as tolerant to the encroachment of abusive men onto their space. And I have been noticing this more and more because I once hung out on the more radical feminist blogs where Christian 'fundie' men would come on with their typical misogynist dogma--once they realize they aren't gaining control they get really nasty,<br /><br />why they hate feminists so much, where as on Christian women spaces, where women have been constructed to be 'patient and kind' the men have ample room to move in, manipulate, do their harm [and they do harm] and then the wreckage follows...<br /><br />Christian women not only need to learn empowerment, they need to learn, that They have a human right, to say no to men, to protect themselves AND their 'space' or 'room of their own' from the encroachment of bully men, stalkers basically, who use God's word, as a weapon, to stalk and harass and intimidate women using guilt--to force them back into subjugation, not just to their own husbands but to all men, I see this a lot.<br /><br />And too many, women pander to these men, thinking its the Christian thing to do--I was falling into that trap--until it dawned on me, just what these types of men are really doing--they use deception [posing as women], they use a facade of 'care' and really, its about them, Exploiting, the needs of hurting women, taking advantage and attempting to silence All women.<br /><br />Its a part of that whole abusive cycle, not just to the wife--but to all women--why 'male abuse' isn't just isolated to private sphere, but effects all of us.<br /><br />JaneJaneDoeThreadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214008105767162997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-71968343576319391712010-01-06T12:42:36.981-06:002010-01-06T12:42:36.981-06:00great post. thanks
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jpugreat post. thanks<br />God is good<br />jpuJohn Umlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06403644529498645914noreply@blogger.com