tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post8003060451680997764..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: The Struggling Marriage and Emotional AbuseHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-19936282581156519352012-11-10T10:50:12.540-06:002012-11-10T10:50:12.540-06:00I think at times people that are victimized don...I think at times people that are victimized don't realize they are doing things out of emotional self defense. <br /><br />I know I have been ugly at times, but I also had not realized at the time I had attempted all the rational approaches in the past...and it was received with deaf ears and dead hearts. I'm not going to say that 100% justifies it, but it does make it understandable. Its like a dog that snaps back when they have abused over and over again. His snapping wasn't his primary way of life until such a time he feels he has nothing else left.<br /><br />The story above about the man that was in prison for 14 years? You notice he didn't 'stay' to live out his mission as the 'author' seems to be present it. God helped this man during his trial no doubt! People don't guilt him into going back, and continue to live with the torture. They don't accuse him of 'giving to get'. Yes, he relied on God in that time. True. He also fled when God presented a time to do so.<br /><br />Funny how one version is the "Grace of God", and the other is presented as 'selfish'. If the world is too cowardly to deal with abusive people? They need to stop bullying those that try to escape them. They deal with neither with that approach, but seem to think they do.Hannah Thomashttp://www.eaandfaith.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-61578768714887058562012-10-22T12:03:51.769-05:002012-10-22T12:03:51.769-05:00If u ask me this is all too confusing. I live with...If u ask me this is all too confusing. I live with a passive aggressive husband and I myself have a few of those traits and I'm starting to feel angry all the time. I'm scared of dying without feeling loved. I agree church's ignore these problems like the plague.I feel so alone and unsure. I feel resentful to my husband I want change I want us all to be happy. 4 children are caught in this wild fire and my pastor knows the situation he like my husband swept the problem under a rug.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-25272912710962166602010-10-16T16:39:18.121-05:002010-10-16T16:39:18.121-05:00Thank you Ifeoma. I pray that you find a support ...Thank you Ifeoma. I pray that you find a support system that helps you and your children - and your spouse from the pain you are enduring now.<br /><br />That is not something God intended for marriage.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-59873665913063193012010-10-16T06:28:58.321-05:002010-10-16T06:28:58.321-05:00I'm thankful for this post because I've so...I'm thankful for this post because I've sought for understanding and help for my situation.Turns out that society ( I live in Nigeria) and even the church seem to be condoning even encouraging abuse. I intend to get out of my marriage but Im crippled by fear of the future. I have two kids,ages 4 years and 5 months . I have no job, no skills and zero self confidence. I've left before but went back because even my parents were against it . It's refreshing to hear at least one voice speak up against the abusers. Maybe one day , they will know that that they also have to be accountable. So, I say "God bless you for this post!"Ifeomanoreply@blogger.com