tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post4041006005467117415..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: Song about Verbal Abuse and Emotional AbuseHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-7136603020744492962011-12-02T06:39:35.336-06:002011-12-02T06:39:35.336-06:00what is the name and artist of the songwhat is the name and artist of the songAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-15338616225573663522009-01-24T08:58:00.000-06:002009-01-24T08:58:00.000-06:00From my own personal experience I agree about the ...From my own personal experience I agree about the 'intent' part.<BR/><BR/>I also believe at times you need a personal friend that is safe enough for you to get the venom out at times. They have to be a special type of person. I found that if I stuff things inside they tend to implode on me. I had a very hard time talking about any of it, and my counselor told me it was like a pressure cooker. I need to at least let a little of the steam out - other wise like the pressure cooker it will explode. <BR/><BR/>I grew up stuffing because I was taught to, and that is not healthy either. You have to be able to talk about it at times. You have to find a special person for that tho. I think the only time I truly shared in a group about some of my own personal experiences was with a group of victim/survivors. I also was very careful even then. Some release I had to have for my own personal well being. It wasn't meant as you said: out of bitterness, hate, to be malicious, spiteful, vindictive, etc. It was in a theraputic way, and it became real...and I was able to move on.<BR/><BR/>I think the environment in which it is said, and as you pointed out the intent is very important.<BR/><BR/>I also think due to my experiences of people encouraging me to NOT to talk about it made things worse for me. I wasn't able to see things clear, and couldn't grasp the truth. I was to busy beating myself up over things I shouldn't have. A safe person will show you how you did things because you had to. How it wasnt your fault, and how you are NOT that awful person that you feel you must be. They can also point out things you did wrong, but I think the most important thing is showing you NOT to hold on and own things that are NOT yours to own. I had a really bad habit of that.<BR/><BR/>Blessings to you as well!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-45176836538693675352009-01-23T23:19:00.000-06:002009-01-23T23:19:00.000-06:00I had recently been wondering and praying about th...I had recently been wondering and praying about the issue of discussing what happened to me and how is that different than mere gossip?<BR/> <BR/>I believe the difference is intent.<BR/>Am I using what happened to me to teach others how to handle a situation or comfort others? Or am I relating my experiences in a bitter, hateful, malicious, spiteful, vindictive, retaliatory manner? <BR/><BR/>I have tremendous respect for this lady's decision to not divulge any details, but I do feel there is a time and a place for discussion of pertinent details. I am very grateful for those who shared their experiences in the books that I have read, or personal experiences others have shared; I have gained so much insight into my situation, and much Godly wisdom that I would not otherwise have if they had not shared the details of their stories; they were an encouragement to handle my situation in a Godly manner.<BR/><BR/>God bless your ministry!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com