tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post110927033182761484..comments2024-02-08T21:51:21.368-06:00Comments on Emotional Abuse and Your Faith: The Silent Killer of Christian Marriages by Amy Wildman White from Healing the HurtingHannahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-10671975266493120672015-05-17T17:14:12.675-05:002015-05-17T17:14:12.675-05:00I couldn't help but cry in torrents, recognizi...I couldn't help but cry in torrents, recognizing the exact issues surrounding the near death of our marriage. I feels like our marriage is horribly unhealthy and the circle of abuse never ends. Is this how God planned it... absolutely not! Depression looms with each day I'm with a desperately dominating Christian man who hammers the submission-obedience Ruling. Molding and shaping a woman to look East Indian with the veil and down grade me as no matter how much serving I do, I'm not good enough. Trapped in a daily ritual of judgement and excessive preaching and demeaning talk, is more than I can bear. After leaving 4 times before and always going back, I recognized that I have to stop the guilt and stop believing I can't make it without him. Now that he is losing his control he is angry, threatening and desperate. This time I realize that I Must leave indefinitely and stop believing he will change. God is all about love and understanding and not this horrible treatment. As hard as it is, as Christians, we still have to wake up to the insidious effects of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse. Our children are watching, as my son is, and they will be affected as well. I'm going to do the right thing even though I hate Divorce and separation!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-61247523277682111232015-03-06T15:14:24.328-06:002015-03-06T15:14:24.328-06:00I'm so sorry for your circumstance Anonymous 6...I'm so sorry for your circumstance Anonymous 67! Of course women aren't the only ones. I started a section under resources for men if you need that. Abusive dynamics tend not to be gender specific.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-7940953490769024892015-02-14T09:31:02.713-06:002015-02-14T09:31:02.713-06:00This article is great however there should be some...This article is great however there should be some changes, abuse goes both ways in a relationship. While most people assume that it is the husband who is the abuser and the wife who is the abused, I can say from experience that this is not always the case. I have suffered physical and emotional abuse from my wife and called for separation now she sends me this article this morning. I don't know where she is coming from in this but I ask only for prayer that the Lord restores our marriage! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-25995920668627009362014-07-11T17:49:19.360-05:002014-07-11T17:49:19.360-05:00Thank you for writing this. As a man who is being ...Thank you for writing this. As a man who is being emotionally abused by his wife it was a good read. It is hard to get help because no one really believes me or the kids when they have asked for help. I do admit my fault for not telling her she was out of line when she would crush the kids for forgetting to walk the dog or unload the dishwasher. I was to scared and so I confronted her months ago and it has not gone well. Again so frustrating that when a man is emotionally abused or pushed around the church is sexist and disregards it and even disregards the children. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-87707972905573229002014-05-31T10:35:51.489-05:002014-05-31T10:35:51.489-05:00Thank you for your encouragement Anonymous 64!Thank you for your encouragement Anonymous 64!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-64435126517107495152014-05-30T07:13:17.520-05:002014-05-30T07:13:17.520-05:00I bookmarked this page several months ago when I f...I bookmarked this page several months ago when I finally identified what was going on within my marriage. However I was not strong enough to confront my husband and continued to be suppressed. However in the last 12 months he has admitted to a long-standing affair, left the home, physically abused me and is now fighting me through divorce courts to "leave me penniless" in his words. I would urge anybody else reading this to do something about it, God has been ever closer to me over the last year and he is a loving God. Being alone is not as scary as it sounds when you are free from abuse!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-33270067981421634962014-04-20T19:00:14.155-05:002014-04-20T19:00:14.155-05:00I want to thank you for this article. Just this p...I want to thank you for this article. Just this past month, I have seen this side of my husband of 2 years. I could never put my finger on what it was that was going on until the Lord brought me revelation on my situation approximately 1 week ago. <br />The silent treatments when I have a different viewpoint, the lack of empathy for me as a human being, the charm simply to get more out of me & push his agenda, the mean jokes, the sarcastic comments, the turning the situation around so he's always the victim, the way he evades answering direct questions, the increasing controlling behavior; I'm not even supposed to have a thought that differs from his anymore.<br />In the past month, I have started to put up healthy boundaries and started to tell him no. As I've been putting up boundaries so that I won't be mistreated, his manipulations & control have increased.<br />He began by calling me crazy and called me demon-possessed. He recently decided to take our money & not let me have access to it. He said that I didn't ask permission to use it one time & therefore now can't trust me. Never had to ask before. He said it was HIS money & I would have to ask permission to use it. I gave in & told him that I would respect his wishes. <br />We sat down to talk about some issues last night & after some discussion, he started to tell me that since he was the head of the household, that he was going to make changes in the house & this was the way it was going to be from now on. I would have no say. <br />I didn’t like the way the conversation was going already so I told him that I would not sit at this meeting any longer. That the next time I wanted to talk to him would be in a counselor’s office. He said he was not going to go to a counselor. He demanded that I sit down; said that I WAS going to sit down and listen to him or else.<br />I refused & told him I would be happy to hear the rest of what he had to say then. I went upstairs to my home office. He followed me, slammed the door shut behind him. He told me that I was going to sit down & listen to him whether I liked it or not. He grabbed me by my shoulders & shoved me down onto my office chair & he put his body weight to hold me there. <br />I told him that I was going to call the police. He took his hands off. I reached for the phone, he took it & slammed it on the floor. I started walking towards the door & he blocked it. I told him that I was going to call 911. He said he was sorry. I told him that putting his hands on me was not okay; that he would never put his hands on me again.<br />I attempted to get to other phones, he prevented that. I started walking towards the door & told him that I was going to go to the neighbor’s house & call from there. He blocked the door.. I told him that no matter what he did, I was going to eventually call 911.<br />At some point he finally got away from the door & he told me that he was going to leave for the night. He said that when he returns, I better be out of HIS house. I was able to call the police. They came out & interviewed us. I told them the entire story. They let him go with a warning. He left for the evening and he stayed with our marriage mentors for the night.<br />I called this morning to update the report that I thought they had made because I woke up with bruises. Come to find out, they reported that no physical attack had occurred. I made them correct it.<br />An officer came to my house today to correct the discrepancy. This may have consequences for me later but if I am going to expect him to be honest with me, I have to be proactive about correcting a lie when I see one, even if it will potentially be at my expense later.<br />I’m thoroughly thankful for this article. It has given me a voice when I couldn’t articulate my inner pain & confusion. I can say that I am not crazy & that God doesn’t just want me to suffer every single day for the rest of my life. There’s steps I could take and that gives me hope. Thank you again.Angelicanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-972448756751003072014-03-18T07:39:25.703-05:002014-03-18T07:39:25.703-05:00I pray that your family finds some peace Anonymous...I pray that your family finds some peace Anonymous 61! We all deserve that.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-10035686422461702812014-03-17T18:51:43.400-05:002014-03-17T18:51:43.400-05:00Thank You, I understand now that my wife is an Emo...Thank You, I understand now that my wife is an Emotional Abuser thanks to your article. She always points out how inadequate everyone is and she will go off if she is wrong. I am praying and asking others for prayer. The kids and I love her we just are so tired of being emotionally brow beaten with our imperfections. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-5884152702346986392013-12-03T16:16:43.562-06:002013-12-03T16:16:43.562-06:00Dear author,
I had this article shown to me and wa...Dear author,<br />I had this article shown to me and was convinced by my now ex wife that I was emotionally abusive. I was devastated and begged for forgiveness and changed my life completely. I confessed my sins to the Pastors of her church (my pride kept me from the Lord), to my wife, to the congregation and to her family and friends as well as my family and friends. I went into counselling for my issues and was told that I was suffering from major depressive disorder. My wife refused to forgive me and told me that since I was emotionally abusive that she had biblical grounds to divorce me. I was convicted and turned everything over to her in the divorce settlement in hopes of making some sort of restitution. She then filed a false protective order against me and refused to let me see our daughter. Unbeknownst to me at the time (due to the protective disorder) she moved in with her married (filed for divorce from his wife of 28 years 2 weeks after my ex wife filed using the same attorney) boyfriend/coworker. In the two years since I have been refused fellowship from the church. I have kept to my wedding vows and have remained in counselling. 6 months after our divorce was final she married her boyfriend. Her new husband then beat, raped and stabbed her when she found out he had been molesting our daughter, but she refuses to divorce him even though he is in jail. To this day she points to this article telling me that I was the real monster, and that if I hadn't been abusive none of this would have ever happened. For the record, I did yell and was not the best husband in the world, and did not always live up to my christian duties, but I have never been in trouble with the law, have always been employed, never physically abused my wife or daugther, never threatened my wife or daughter, and never cheated on my wife. The point of all of this is that I feel you need to be reall careful not to give "biblical" sanctification to a divorce that is not neccessary and you need to understand (much like those who verbally and emotionally abuse others) that words can be devastating. Emotional abuse should not be a means to commit "sanctified adultery". Take care and I pray that you understand that you (while not to blame) did contribute to the destruction of at least 3 lives. I will pray for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-10916161796998385152013-11-26T12:33:47.913-06:002013-11-26T12:33:47.913-06:00This article confirmed what was in my heart all al...This article confirmed what was in my heart all along. There's an article on Got Questions.com that implies that women should look to the Lord to get peace, and once they do that, they will focus less on their abuse. That article made me so upset. I know that the Lord is the source of peace, yet I also know that I can't experience peace if I'm constantly belittled and told I'm worthless. <br /><br />My husband has put his hands on me, lied, cheated, berated, cursed, etc. He even tried to scare our dog. I've had to call the police on him and he cursed them out. He has never apologized and told me he would "rather apologize to the police than to me." I've been dealing with this but enough is enough. The pain of staying the same is greater than the pain it will take to walk away. So I'm done. CrimsonLocshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03271258628332378871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-44748264786564213872013-10-16T16:16:56.371-05:002013-10-16T16:16:56.371-05:00I'm sorry you are reading the article that way...I'm sorry you are reading the article that way Ron. Its kind of a no brainer that abuse isn't gender related, but much of what is written above - principal wise - could apply to anyone. There are also articles on this blog directed towards male victims of abuse. <br /><br />Also if you think about it - there is even literature that speaks about abuse towards males that that have been around for years. Charles Dickens for example. You can't tell me people don't think some of his female characters in those stories - which are taken from his personal experience - aren't abusive. They most certainly were.<br /><br />There are plenty of characteristics mentioned in that article that would apply to any abusive personality. Gender has nothing to do with it.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-11249768383062503472013-10-13T21:53:54.750-05:002013-10-13T21:53:54.750-05:00It's interesting to me that all the articles o...It's interesting to me that all the articles on this subject present the wife as the wronged and abused party and the husband is always the villain. I suppose that it is unilaterally agreed that a husband is never the subject of emotional abuse in marriage. This entire blind double standard is rather naive and immature,and certainly not becoming of true Christianity.Ron Harnagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16936926325379865336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-43686833578102347782013-10-05T17:19:09.310-05:002013-10-05T17:19:09.310-05:00What resonates the most deeply with me is your use...What resonates the most deeply with me is your use of the word "disintegration" in describing the emotionally abused woman. I had incredibly successful double careers, great friends, and was reasonably self-confident until I unwittingly married a charismatic, smart Christian abuser in my sixties. I separated quickly, but kept trying counseling together. We went through MANY counselors. He was abusive to the counselors, and stayed in denial. A year has passed, and I find myself unable to create, unable to do my life's work, struggling with post-traumatic stress from the abuse, insomnia, severe health problems, and depression. I am scared that I'll keep on disintegrating and never again be the person I was. All this in spite of having a very supportive church family, including the leadership. I was one of the lucky ones; my abuser's behavior became public enough that my community and church could, eventually, see it.<br /><br />My heart goes out to all the struggling women out there who have no support.<br /> <br />By the way, I do think abused men are not quite as vulnerable, or as dependent<br />(in Christian marriage we are called the weaker vessel for good reason), as women, and usually sense that they can take care of themselves physically if their wives are abusive, and financially if they're wives leave) somewhat better than women. I'm close to a couple of abused men, who can see this. Still, the emotional trauma to them is just as devastating, from what they tell me. I can't know, really, because I'm a woman. I do know I was terrified of my husband, who was much stronger, much younger, and much louder than me! He scared the living daylights out of me. Several times I felt sure he was about to kill me. <br /><br />Thanks for this site. It's a tremendous comfort and source of hope. Just reading <br />all these posts lifted my spirits.<br /><br />Somebody Out HereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-46897472509955060922013-09-18T11:58:07.764-05:002013-09-18T11:58:07.764-05:00Jeremiah (#47) - The article itself says "It ...Jeremiah (#47) - The article itself says "It is hoped that this material will be used to promote the growth of successful, fulfilling marriages and to provide the stimulus for further study and research. It is in no way intended to promote divorce." The conclusion restates this, saying, "If the church is committed to saving marriages, understanding emotional abuse and applying proper counseling strategies are necessary conditions to make this happen. There is hope for victims and their abusers if the right steps are taken. If they are not, emotional abuse will continue to kill Christian marriages."<br /><br />Seems like the author wants marriages to be saved, not ended. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-44571182622559901172013-09-14T09:05:31.854-05:002013-09-14T09:05:31.854-05:00Sadly , he knows what he is doing by going to chur...Sadly , he knows what he is doing by going to church, etc And playing on the members as well.. These mental abusers are great on playing mind games , they are master manipulators. I was married to one for 21 years The only relationship they know how to have is a manipulating one . . Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-82824108720318728942013-09-09T12:42:32.415-05:002013-09-09T12:42:32.415-05:00This is the most insightful article I've read ...This is the most insightful article I've read on the dynamics of what is happening in an abusive relationship. I don't think I've seen better information on the abuser. My husband has been mentally and physically abusive for years. He will tell me he loves me, and then act horribly. I've had him tagged as a liar and manipulator. How can you say you love someone and then abuse them. I convinced myself years ago he didn't love me and went through the cycle of guilt, feelings of being raped etc. described here, but never understood what was really going on until now. My husband is planning to move out, and says he is hurting too. I've been stuck in the cycle of how can you be in pain when you are the one that has hurt me for years. This article has begun to show me a little more of his point of view. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-39764606141622199932013-08-11T00:29:58.369-05:002013-08-11T00:29:58.369-05:00I dated a Minister in the church who verbally and ...I dated a Minister in the church who verbally and emotionally abused me for years. The Lord showed me all these things mentioned in the article above and helped me to leave the relationship. I talked to his pastor and his pastor stated that he would talk to him but he advised me to 'not talk about my experience with others for SYMPHONY' and rushed me off the phone with a two min. prayer. I have decided to take a brake from church and watch church on T.V. <br /><br />The first time I dated someone in church he tried to make-out with me in the church van and he bragged about the many church wives and women that called him wishing to have sexual relations with him. Now I date a 'minister' in the church and he abuse and victimize me and when I talk to the pastor and he comes with another form of victimizing behavior. If this is God's body I am sure He feels disgusted and dirty. 'I know I do' - and this is why I must stay away to feel clean again. Great Article! Annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-44277612239845519762013-07-11T11:28:14.225-05:002013-07-11T11:28:14.225-05:00Anonymous 51:
Please go to http://forums.our-plac...Anonymous 51:<br /><br />Please go to http://forums.our-place-online.net/index.php? for some real life help.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-62203215683481550992013-07-10T17:59:27.454-05:002013-07-10T17:59:27.454-05:00I am literally in tears at work reading this.... T...I am literally in tears at work reading this.... This is MY STORY!!!! How do I get out!! PLEASE GOD HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-89861808311947557482013-04-19T17:40:24.765-05:002013-04-19T17:40:24.765-05:00Yes. I dont know if this was recent..but..zoegirl1...Yes. I dont know if this was recent..but..zoegirl1948@gmail.comLiznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-11726902449061444222013-04-12T13:15:19.892-05:002013-04-12T13:15:19.892-05:00Thank you for this article. It has been a blessing...Thank you for this article. It has been a blessing to me. I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship with a passive aggressive man for 10 years. We have been married for 7 years. Only recently did it start to escalate really bad. We are very low income household, and he is the sole provider. If I need anything (yes, tampons and all) I have to ask him for it. He keeps me at home where I take care of the kids, house, garden and animals myself. If I ask him to help me with anything, he says he will, but never does. When I finally ask again, he says I am b****** at him, and punishes me by staying gone more than usual and not helping with anything. He sleeps out in his shop at night, and keeps a padlock on it so I cannot get in it when he is gone. He has a history of substance abuse, and recently I caught him with some. He is a pathological liar. He lies straight to my face about everything. He says the problems in our marriage are my fault and if I was not such a b**** he would spend time with us. The kids are almost two and five and see him literally about 5 minutes a day, if at all. We are blessed to have a church within walking distance of our house, and I take the kids. He gives me gas money very rarely, and I always have to explain to him where I need to go. Usually he just goes to grocery store instead of giving me gas money. We live in a very rural area and town is about 20 minutes away. He went to church for a while, but then stopped going. I am thinking about divorce, but being a stay at home mom I have no money. I am also scared to death that he will take my kids away or really treat me even more cruelly if he found out that I was trying to get a divorce. My husband has never held a job very long and recently has stopped paying the bills. I have no one to watch my kids if I go to work and am torn about childcare. They have never really been away from me. We had an argument a couple months ago, and with me having a bad temper and finally reaching a breaking point, I am ashamed to admit that I hit him several times. He is a lot bigger than me and stronger than me ( I'm about 5'3 and 110 lbs), and he was not hurt. He was laughing the whole time and telling me to hit him again. When I stopped, he immediately called the cops and I was arrested and charged with domestic assault. I know I was in the wrong, but at the same time I felt victimized myself by his passive aggressive emotional abuse he subjects me to. They never considered what brought me to that point, and I was labeled as the abuser. I was not allowed to go back to my home for a month. He kept my kids from me for a week, but finally realizing he could not care for them, let them go with me. I am back home now, and wondering if I should have just stayed gone. I stayed with my parents while I was away, and my father is an alcoholic and a passive aggressive himself. Honestly, that was the main reason I went home. Neither place is much better. I am afraid if I file for divorce, he will tell the courts that I am crazy because I hit him and have yelled at him in front of my kids and am unfit to be a mother. He says he loves me and wants things to be better, but he doesn't make any effort to change. He says it is me who needs to change and we need to make it work for the kids. I could go on and on, but I won't. I feel abandoned, crushed and helpless. I am trying to get a job now so I will have more options. Did I mention my parents are not allowed to come to visit at my house no more according to him? I feel trapped. Knowing that divorce is frowned upon in the church, I am indecisive about what to do. Thank you for the article. God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-71178318864731742562012-12-16T21:54:22.510-06:002012-12-16T21:54:22.510-06:00How would you address the problem if you have an u...How would you address the problem if you have an unrepentant person then? They are normally the ones that come to kill, steal and destroy lifes. True. In most cases the unrepentant person doesn't care what the church or secular world has to say. Sure, at times their words are sweet, but the follow up shows it was just that. Words. We find that concept in the bible as well. So what is your suggestion regarding how to handle the circumstance? I don't see anything in your post so far. Its vague to be honest. I don't see an issue with separating so they can no longer be allowed to kill, steal and destroy lifes.<br /><br />How do people know others in hell over divorcing? They could could not 'seen' them there, because we can't visit of course. Don't buy into a scare tactic unless you firmly back it up with scripture. Human's tend to 'say' alot of things. According to scripture there is just one sin that is unforgivable by our Father in Heaven. <br /><br />I think you need to research the scripture about if you divorce you are guilty of adultery. Someone else can't 'make us' guilty of anything. We have to do those things all by ourselves. As far as I know there is only ONE defination of adultery, unless people have invented a new one.<br /><br />Sadly, people in general (within the world) don't take the abuses that God speaks against to seriously. He speaks very strongly against sins of the tongue. Scripture also tells us how to handle 'angry' people as well. We all can be molded and refined no matter what our circumstance. As you know some allow this to happen, and others do not.<br /><br />How do you protect the family members from the unrepentant person? Sadly, we are speaking of broken people with major issues. Its habitual behavior, and it won't be easy to stop EVEN if they want to. Do we leave them unprotected?<br /><br />The article was to help people recognize the sinful behavior they have had to put up with, because most people can't recognize it. They are scared, and have been beaten down emotionally. You won't help by scaring them to death with opinions, and telling them people are in hell for divorcing. We are help, encourage, and protect the best we can.<br /><br />Anyone can make comments about if the person is Christian or not as well. The only one that knows is God. There are plenty of good people all over the globe, and sadly some truly 'out there' ones as well. The world in general tolerates all kinds of sin, and I'm sure we can find particular ones we are good at no matter where we live.<br /><br />Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-56457109651334563912012-12-16T19:57:53.389-06:002012-12-16T19:57:53.389-06:00How do we assess if a writer is a true Christian w...How do we assess if a writer is a true Christian who knows the Word of God well ? By the fruits of his/her conclusion, which is, if I read it correctly, that divorce is sometimes justifiable if there is a hopeless case of emotional abuse that is defined as abandonment.Is this what the writer is finally alluding to?<br /><br />There are only a few very profound and simple things that the Lord says and Paul affirms: that husbands are to love their wives as Jesus loved the church and wives are to submit to their husbands. Second, in every marriage, husbands and wives need to work out their differences with love and patience and bearing the cross for Jesus's sake. Third, the real enemy is NOT THE ABUSIVE HUSBAND OR THE ABUSIVE WIFE. The real enemy that has entered into the minds and hearts of struggling Christians and non-Christians is the one that has come to "kill, steal and destroy" our lives, families and children's lives. <br /><br />Once you recognise the roots of rage, that it is has a spiritual as well as a physio-emotional cause, then you can address the problem properly instead of trying to dichotomise the relationship into abuser/abused. Of course there are certain circumstances that need special solutions: e.g. mental disorders, depressions, deliverance from spirit of anger etc. The Church should apply the full the force of discernment of the Holy Spirit in dealing with these issues. The secular world in contrast offers instant solutions that may not be the will of God. (In fact, some Christians are said to be seen in Hell because they divorced their spouses).<br /><br />We should also know that our eternal bridegroom is Christ Himself and we are to allow ourselves to be molded and refined by the trials of this imperfect world to become His untainted, holy Bride. The Word of God also says that we are guilty of adultery if we divorce because the divorcee will invariably marry another spouse. American society may have become tolerant of divorce in these times, but the word of God, despite whatever a deacon, counselor or elder says, is the same yesterday, today and tommorow. God bless. <br /><br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br /><br /><br /> Jonas Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10786108344875757153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10948559.post-7036390546541880772012-08-14T19:17:01.595-05:002012-08-14T19:17:01.595-05:00pls pray 4 me can i email anyone in confidence pls...pls pray 4 me can i email anyone in confidence pls?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com